Danish way of parenting

PARENT

• Play: preventing from playing may cause deficit attention disorders. Reduce screen time. Don't focus only on learning activities. -> Get art supplies. Go out consistently weekly in public playgrounds. Let them play alone.
• Authenticity: the goal is not perfection and not to avoid bad feelings. Face tragedies together, don't hide from them. -> Do not always compliment and praise. Do not judge. Tell stories about everything real in life.
• Reframe: avoid binary thinking (false dichotomy -> critical-thinking). Do not deny their suffering, help them seeing it from different point of views. Be a realist optimist.
• Empathy: listen more and talk less. Judgement will make them to suffer in silence. Value community over individuals. -> Assist them identifying emotions. Read books together. Show your vulnerabilities.
• No Ultimatums: be authoritative not authoritarian, set high goals and standards but support them achieving them without punishments or judgements. -> physical punishments is linked to mental issues and substances abuse.
  • Physical punishment of children: lessons from 20 years of research
  • recognize your child is not trying to harm you, they don't even have the brain fully developed (amygdala, pre-frontal cortex...).
  • go in another place for a few minutes and breathe DEEPLY!
• Togetherness: meet with family every time you can (hygge style).

Videos: - # Teaching Empathy: The Danish Way of Parenting, co-author Jessica Alexander - Danish Way of Parenting. How to Raise Smart and Happy Children - By Jessica Joelle Alexander Other Books - Positive Discipline” by Jane Nelsen: A comprehensive guide on non-punitive discipline techniques. - “The Whole-Brain Child” by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson: Explores strategies to nurture a child’s developing mind.